Halloween and our fascination with things
that go bump in the night offer an insight into how we cause ourselves to suffer
anxiety 365 days a year.Each Halloween, children across
America dress up as goblins, ghouls and witches. They go out on this "spooky"
night to scare others and to enjoy being frightened themselves. Some visit a
Haunted House. Later many will watch horror movies. They enjoy scaring each
other. They enjoy scaring themselves. And, they enjoy giving a start to us
unsuspecting grownups.
The good news is that none of this is real. Or is it?
To parody a well-known national figure, you might start by
asking yourself "what do you mean by real?"
Obviously, everyone is well aware that behind that grotesque
mask is a freckle faced 5th grader. And, we all know that the man-eating shark
on Jaws is nothing more than an arrangement of electromagnetic
charges on our videotape. Everyone knows these things. But not everybody.
As far as our body is concerned these experiences are very
real indeed. It seems we have a "trick or treat" response not just to what is
really happening, but also to our imaginative picture of what is happening or
about to happen.
This acceptance of illusion or belief as reality is a breeding
ground both of psychological strengths and demons. We have the ability to
frighten ourselves by imagining our lives to be filled with terrifying threats.
A hand reaches out from the grave in the movie. We startle. Our body jumps.
The music slows and becomes ominous we feel the hairs on the back of our neck
stand up. The hero is about to be captured and brutally killed by some evil
or other. We move into full alarm. Our heart beats faster. Our skin
temperature rises. Our breathing gets shallow. We might even begin to sweat.
These reactions are very real.
By the same token, when we watch, read or listen to a pleasant
story, we relax. Breathing rate and heart beat slow down. Body temperature
cools. Etc.
When we imagine success, safety and love our body responds
with endorphins and a sense of well being. But when we conjure a terrifying
vision our body just as willingly obliges by raising our stress level. The
higher stress level makes it seem even more likely something "bad" is happening.
And so on. So, what can you do about it? No one wants to live his or her life
trapped inside a horror movie. Yet many do.
There are many ways to escape from negative emotions. Some
constructive. Others destructive. Addiction is an example of the destructive
path. An addict gives up dealing with the horror movie part of their lives, but
adds an extremely pleasurable show to run side by side. This show may feature
alcohol, other drugs, binge eating, gambling or a host of other methods of
instant gratification. All start out as "treats" designed to dull the addict’s
internal demons. Everyone around the addict knows it’s not going to work. And,
eventually, they make the discovery on their own,
Essentially, there are three ways to recover from "trick of
treat thinking." They are the spiritual, mental and physical. And separate
disciplines are effective in each of these areas. Each has its own role and each
influences the others." They work to minimize fear and accentuate positive
strengths and emotions. When used in conjunction, the approach is called
holistic and results are maximized.
Through spiritual health we conquer, rise above or transform
our demons. Physical health means the body is providing proper support for the
mind and spirit. Mental clarity unmasks demons and diminishes their power.
Creative visualization, hypnosis, cognitive therapies, positive thinking and
neurolinguistic programming can take this a step further. They can actually give
us the tools to turn demons into positive forces.
Don’t be intimidated. Just start somewhere. Be assured that
anyone can make a significant improvement in their life by making an effort to
nurture their spirit, body and mind. And once all systems are working in
harmony, you will find that you are suffering milder tricks and enjoying ever
more magnificent treats.
All it takes is willingness to change and the courage to take
the first step.
So, having said all that, if you see a pleasant-looking
middle-aged man with long white fangs covered with blood and a deathly pale
complexion on your street asking for treats, you’ll know not to panic. It’s only
me expressing the spirit of the holiday. Or is it?
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